How I was murdered in my own home and lived to pay for it.

C'est La Vie, C'est La Guerre -- A Lullaby From My Father.

Pack Of Lucky Strikes

My father always referred to this song/expression in his want to explain away the mistakes he made in our lives, impossible really since he never made any as per him. And I finally decided to search for the meaning of the expression(s) and found this song.

It says all I need to know about how he felt about the mess he made of our lives and the want to blame his child victims and normalize it in the process in that he and I are alike. Heike and others had the same approach, to claim I am just like my father, and nothing could be further from the truth.

Number of children I have harmed? Zero. Number of adults I have harmed? Zero. He can't say the same thing and this is his want and theirs to accuse me of being of like mind, and then rely on their military positions and gender prejudice to tell me I deserved to have him cut my foot to shreds with a broken bottle as a child as he did. This is just sick.

http://songmeanings.com/songs/view/3530822107858691639/

Stephen Duffy – C'est La Vie, C'est La Guerre

We aren't kith or kin
No we're not related
We made the same mistakes
In the same places

C'est la vie or c'est la guerre
We make the same mistakes
We share the same despair
We make the same mistakes
We share the same despair

Do anything you want
If you know when to stop
Throw away your hand
And start again